Welcome!

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If you’re looking for concrete tools to help you reconnect with yourself and live your most authentically joyful life, you’re in the right place.

Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is an evidence-based psychotherapy that helps people build emotional resilience. DBT has saved the lives of many of my clients, and it’s been life-changing for me. DBT’s skills have helped me cope with the toughest parts of life, including recovering from a heart attack.

I’m doing my best to share DBT’s wisdom with as many people as possible. I’m glad you’re here!

Want to learn more?

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    DBT Information

    Curious what DBT actually is?

    Want learn DBT skills?

    Want to find a DBT therapist?

    I’ve got you covered.

    Free Resources
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    Books

    If you’re ready to learn the DBT skills, I co-wrote a bestselling DBT workbook that can help you.

    I also write articles about coping skills and mental health for Psychology Today, Psyche, and other outlets.

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    Media

    If you prefer listening or watching to learn, check out these podcasts, interviews, and videos to hear about how DBT can help you improve your mental health, overcome shame, and build a life worth living.

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    Speaking

    I provide keynotes, trainings, and webinars about DBT, LGBTQ+ mental health, suicide/self-harm, heart attack emotional recovery, and more.

    Please reach out if you want me to speak to your group!

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About Kiki

I'm a licensed psychologist, author, speaker, and Linehan-Board-certified expert in DBT.

As a therapist, I specialized in helping people with borderline personality disorder, PTSD, and self-harm. I’m an expert on LGBTQ+ mental health and suicide, and my research in these areas has won awards.

I’m also an emotionally sensitive person just doing their best to reduce suffering in this world. Learning DBT changed my life. I'm passionate about sharing DBT skills and other evidence-based mental health information with the world through social media @dbtkiki, my books, and speaking.

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Earlier this month, I had the opportunity to attend and speak at the incredible Women’s Heart Health Summit. The Summit brings together women leaders in cardiology, advocacy, policy, and business, focusing on one goal: to close the gender equi
A book with blue and orange cover, titled "Self-Directed DBT Skills: 3-Month Workbook" co-authored by Kiki Fehling, PhD and Elliot Weiner, PhD.

Self-Directed DBT Skills:

A 3-Month DBT Workbook

“Self-Directed DBT Skills is the first authoritative, practical DBT skills book for clients, covering all the skills and guided practice activities. Until now, all of the client-facing DBT books I’ve found either did not have enough practical content (because they were broad overviews), or their content was underwhelming, sometimes missing many skills topics. This book is well written, so anyone can easily understand the skills, and the content is sophisticated, closely matching what Marsha Linehan taught me when I was her student. Self-Directed DBT Skills is an invaluable resource for people who want to get more out of their DBT-informed therapy.”

—Milton Brown, PhD, clinic director and founder, DBT Center of San Diego

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